Thursday, October 29, 2015
It has taken control,
You're mesmerized by media,
It has taken control,
The constant unconscious scrolling,
It has taken control,
Conversations are interrupted,
You are losing control,
You're driven by compulsion,
You think they might care,
So you take a pic or video,
And quickly hit share,
Compiling together a long string of imagery,
That feeds the mind and keeps your from misery,
The mystery of the moment is immediately lost,
And your presence has created a pretty big cost,
Sure you would like to stay connected,
But you fail to see how your life might be affected,
Boredom is our enemy,
Thank god for your phone,
To deliver you from evil of an unsettling tone,
Just sitting and relaxing has become so obscured,
We would much rather prefer an useless cure,
For the escape of self knowledge and inner discovery,
We stay on the surface with increasing drudgery,
Compulsion drives the horse that runs in circles,
It makes us believe that we need to be whirled,
A like has the right to please our dopamine sensors,
And we love to connect at any measure,
But we have lost with what we need most?
A community of helpful individuals either to grow?
Where short interactions are in no need of demand and meaningful conversations make us take a stand,
For the things that mean most have been lost in a web,
And technology has tricked us to stay in our head,
It may seem like a struggle to change,
But the obstacle ahead is merely the way,
It takes small steps, but each of them are huge,
Going against the status quo,
Will ring to be quite true,
So has it taken control after reading this piece,
Or are you starting to realize this imaginary disease,
Humanity is right here whenever you need it,
It just all depends on what you choose to feed it.
Yes, you !
I think I know what's best for you!
I think it's true, but do you?
Do you even think you know what is best for yourself? I doubt it. You're trapped in your own head. Sure you have personal responsibility, but do you have the drive and the vigor to better yourself? Do you have the self awareness to analyze and learn in order to progress as a smarter ad healthier human being ?
Why do I think I know what is best for you?
Well certainly I know what is best for myself. Don't I? Do you think that you know what is best for me? I mean if I simply think that I know what is best for you, isn't that enough to validate my own view? In fact I think that you should listen to me as I lay out what is best for you. I can assure you that what is best for you will be best for me as well.
Why even take the time to convince you that I know what is best for you?
I am convinced through my logical and rational thinking that my experiences and compound knowledge sees a bigger picture that you see. I mean you can only see yourself in a mirror and judge your actions from the viewpoint of your own mindset, correct? I have a different perspective that might enlighten you in how you could improve yourself. Certainly you could ignore me. Certainly you could ostracize yourself from me and not listen to what I have to say. What would that do exactly? Wouldn't you be walking away from the potential of improving yourself? Who would want to ignorantly walk away from betterment? Certainly not I!
I can assure you that what I think is best is for the "greater good". Not only will my thoughts influence your thoughts, but my it will change the way you think and live life. It will open you up in ways that you would have never have dreamt. How can I prove to you that I know what is best for you?
Well I cannot right now, but I can promise you with reward and wisdom. I can convince you that the sacrifices I think you should take will override your personal sovereignty and be better for the entire world. I can tell you how I will do things for you such as give you free gifts and promise you entitlements. I will offer you happiness in the future. Forget about the illusory concept of happiness now! Happiness is on the other side of what I have to say and what I think you should do. You hear me?
I think I can lead you. You could be a great follower. My benefit will be your benefit. We shall share benefits. I shall grant you benefits. I can mold you into a leader that can create more leaders. I will teach you the importance of obedience and discipline. I will promise you the eventual reward of competency and equality. Stay with me. Walk with me. Eat from the bowl that I cook.
All I need is your undivided attention. When you listen, I will offer you a path that you cannot refuse. I will persuade you to act out certain things that I think are best for you. Since I know what is best for you, all actions are justified and what you think becomes invalid. Remember, that obedience is an importance virtue. Remember that the betterment of the whole between you, me and the others take precendence over what you want. Think of the children. Think of the future of the world.
You will realize that the simple thought that arose in my mind that led me to think I know what is best for you, is correct. It is the light and the way. My experience supercedes your experience. My thoughts hold more weight than your thoughts. Your right may be my wrong and that is ok. Your rights shall be granted by me and my concept of wrong will influence your sense of morality. It is not what you think is right in your conscience, it is about what I think is right for you and me. If your sense of right does not match up with mine, you shall shamed and fined. Trust me. It will be a lesson in obedience and overall morality. My sense of morality is the right sense of morality.
I now shall become your ruler. I think I know what is best for you. The best way for me to show this is to rule you. I grant myself to rule you. Are you ok with this? Have I convinced you otherwise? If you think that I cannot be your ruler, than I must enforce it since my perspective holds more weight than yours. I have been blessed with the ability to rule. It is my responsibility to keep my people in check and in compliance with my demands.
Since I know what is best for you, I will need some money from you. I can assure you that it is a good idea. I will make good use of your money for what I think is best for you. This will free up your mind in not worrying too much about yourself. No reason to really worry about yourself when I have your back right? Just sit down, listen and follow my directions. I will just need some of your time and money. I promise not to take too much. It is for the betterment of how I think your like should operate.
Don't want to give me money?
That's fine. I can find a way to get it from you. I mean why won't you trust me? I can give you so many things? I can offer you so much reward. Sure you may have to make some sacrifices, but from the goodness of your heart why can't you see the truth in what I am saying. Follow me and I will forgive you of your past transgressions.
So are you in or are you out?
Do I have your consent to take control?
Have I made a case to gain your trust?
Since I think I know what is best for you I am going to go ahead and just take charge. The people that will follow me will help me get more followers willingly or unwillingly. Don't worry. Just relax and rejoice in the revolution. You can join us or fight back.
Do you think you know what is best for me?
Well I don't think so. I think I'll peacefully walk away and have a cup of tea.
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
Busy! Busy! Busy!
We are socially conditioned as young people that we need to be an asset or contribute something worthwhile to society. Our economy and culture influences us to be production machines and focus our hard work and energy on all things productive. That is our modus operandi.
Not getting enough done?
Not fulfilling your inner drive to produce more content for people that may or may not take the time to look at it?
Sure you get up early and hit the grindstone with illuminated motivation, but what are you actually doing? How are you contributing anything important?
Quantity over quality.
In this high speed rat race social media influenced tornado Goliath, our productivity takes the front seat in determining our general well being. It's all about completed a never ending to do list to keep the mind and attention busy. The mind is pleased by all the pleasant and non-pleasant distraction that radiates like a beacon from the exhausted mouse on the wheel in your head.
When you find a time in your day where there is a lull what do you do?
Do you reach for your phone?
Do you immediately try to escape the boredom landscape in your head and try to distract your lack of attention and awareness with something else?
The mind tries to convince you that it must be continually busy. It perpetuates thought after thought.
The mind asks:
What should I being doing right now?
What do I beed to finish?
Do I need to go to the grocery store?
Do I have enough supplies for work tomorrow?
Should I do laundry soon?
All these questions are some sort of distraction in a sense. It is the lack of awareness and self knowledge that perpetuates the compulsive thought that so drives us and society. We feel like we have an obligation to keep working and to keep producing.
Why can't we sit still?
Why can't we stand straight and watch the theatrics of humanity unfold before our eyes?
Most of out consumerist based product economy is based upon tangible objects and transitory distractions. There is an app for that! Here, look at this new gadget! Don't you want it?! I mean look at all the things it can do for you !
What does add to our general well being?
Each day we ( the general population) focus on doing and getting things done. We are trained to compete and complete. We feel we must meet a certain productivity standard in order to fulfill our happiness and sense of contentment. This is a trap! This will only perpetuate itself with more power!
When compulsive thought is the driving factor in motivating action without awareness, it is of the mind and not directed towards internal growth. This truth will help you realize the legitimacy and value of your so called productivity. Take a deep breath and step back!
How many projects do you have going on?
How many are necessary?
How many are just in place to fulfill your monkey mind and perpetuate more unconscious doings?
What are the most important things?
What are you the most PASSIONATE about ?!
When you are present, you make the necessary space both internally and externally to accomplish what needs to be done. You flow without hesitation. You use your attention and drive to accomplish things in an orderly fashion without worrying it will get done. The mere concept of productivity becomes a useless construct. When you are pursuing productivity only for the sake of productivity, you are deceiving yourself and depriving yourself from well being and awareness.
Are you busy for the sake of being busy?
Are you busy because you think you should?
Do you feel guilty when you aren't busy?
Do people criticize you on your work ethic?
Do you feel like it is never enough?
These are all questions you must ask yourself. Presence must take priority over productivity. When presence enters consciousness, contentment, conviction, and intention drive what needs to get done. If a pressing deadline needs attention, you must recenter yourself. Breathe in a couple of times and let the answers unfold. Understand that the obstacle is the way and that distraction will happen. Learn from the experience of getting things done. With presence comes efficiency and knowledge. With presence comes the immediacy to accept what is and complete what is not.
Friday, October 23, 2015
Alright here we go..
Focus on the breathing.
In and out.
In and out through the nose.
Counting to 5 and release.
Oh yea, smile.
Can't forget to smile.
Should I have my eyebrows raised?
Ok, well, no not important.
Alright, so breathing yes, back to breathing.
Where was I? Was I counting?
Should I keep count or just do this till I am done?
Wait, when will I know when I'm done?
I should have set an alarm.
But wait that could have just messed everything up if I was in some deep meditation. When do I finish?
Back to breathing,
Oh crap gotta get some creamer today and maybe some incense and rice.
Gotta make some food for the next few days since eating out gets so expensive.
Ok, what else for today?
Oh wait I'm suppose to be breathing. I can think about this later.
Breathing in, breathing in,
I haven't checked my bank account in a few days...wonder where it's at. Shoot, do I have enough money for food?
Aye, I hope so...
Ok I was breathing out right?
Or was I breathing in?
Ok I'll start over. I'll breathe in for 6 and hold for 5. Then I'll breathe out for 8. That seems reasonable right?
Ok here goes.
That wasn't so bad.
Ok here we go again...
Breathing in, Breathing in,
( Phone Rings )
Oh I wonder who that is?
I should just let it ring.
But it's early... Could be important.
Ok, I should get it.
Thursday, October 22, 2015
There are many logical and appropriate ways to use the word "we" in conversation and speech. It is readily apparent that this word can be conflated and used to manipulate and deceive people.
"We" is essentially a constructed abstract. It is not something that is tangible or that exists as a solid state. There are only individuals that choose to voluntarily assign themselves to cooperatives and groups. Although cooperation is extremely beneficial and important, the We abstract can distract individuals and hinder the awareness of personal sovereignty and responsibility.
Some fallacious examples of the word we are as follows.
We need free healthcare in this country.
We all need to step up and create change.
We won that game against your team.
Sometimes the word we operates under and assumption of what the individual thinks is best for the abstract concept. It creates a false Us vs. Them dichotomy that creates one false abstract working against another false abstract. People that use "We" in the wrong way use it to force their ideologies amongst like minded or non convinced individuals. Can a person really know what is best for a collective or group? Can a person use we to motivate others to follow what they think is "right" for the others?
We can create a destructive behavior called Group Think. Group Think allows individuals to band and think together with the guise of a common good or motivation. It is common in political parties and sports. It supports the idea that an ideology can drive people to make decisions that can be destructive to people that do not subscribe to their particular ideas or beliefs. Group Think allows for the individual to deny his or hers personal sovereignty and sacrifice it for the benefit of an unquestioned collectivist ideal.
Do we have the ability to cooperate and understand the uniqueness and value of individuals? Yes.
Humans are innately social creatures that must cooperate in order to survive. This is a fact of reality. Understanding this without trying to force values or ideologies on a person is important. When we assign ourselves to a group that says it knows what is right, we are escaping out empathic human makeup.
One can simply think that they know what is best for the benefit of individuals, but if it is not reasonable or backed by violence it becomes nothing of value. Individuals that cooperate voluntarily with certain explicit and understand values will know that "We" evolves out of personal interest, compassion and empathy.
Using We to persuade others to comply or follow you is fallacious. It operates under assumptions that you know what is best and right for the people you're talking to. Sure some of it can be based in reality. We are all made up of cells. We are all living on earth. This is a fact of reality not an agenda being forced upon you with collectivist notions. When a person uses we to try to make a point in proving their agenda without reason or evidence, it is vacant manipulative behavior.
An important thing to consider is how and why we use the word "we". Especially word pairings such as "we should" and "we need". What makes us use these word combinations? Is it social conditioning forced upon us in our lives?
Take in consideration why you are using that word in the first place. How does it add value to the speech and what does it say about your character?
What is we actually?
"We" are individuals cooperatively living and sustaining each other emotionally, physically, indirectly and directly. We understand and accept the opinions and beliefs of others and choose how we react to them. We share the equality that none of us aren't inherently equal, but require similar needs for survival. We give and get back in return. We are responsible for our actions. We strive to improve and sustain. We understand that community arises from the growth of self knowledge and inner awareness. The inner reflects the outer.
We all share consciousness and embrace subjectivity and objectivity. We collectively experience the outside world through various lenses and perspectives. We are a global community that can choose to divide, conquer or commune based on our presence. When we are present, we are truly ourselves and we are truly we.
Tuesday, October 13, 2015
We've all heard these sayings.
No pain, No gain
Pain is weakness leaving the body.
What value do these sayings give us?
Is is necessary to always go through pain to achieve a certain goal? Is it to be expected that people trying to achieve the same goal need to go through a certain quantified amount of pain to get to a certain level of satisfaction?
We see people in solid careers spouting on how much stress and pain they have had to go through to get where they are at now. They feel a sense of accomplishment with pulling through the bad times and get a sense of entitlement with their current position. They think that it is necessary for a person to go through the same amount of grueling pain. This certainly an untrue fallacy. It is appealing to antiquity and subscribing to a toxic sense of though that sees everyone as equals with out regard for inherent advantages and disadvantages.
A comedian may make up a concept in their head that all comics must suck at first and go through constant rejection and discomfort. This is a cookie cutter ideology that assumes a fixed way of doing something. A person could start out at open mic and completely kill with his jokes. He could somehow appear on a night where an established comedian will help him along. Meanwhile, a couple other comedians are bombing and doing constant open mics with little to no reward. The less fortunate comedians may see the naturally funny guy as doing something deceptive or even unfair. They appeal to emotion and fit themselves in an elusive and illusory thought structure.
There cannot be one path one size fits all solution for everyone. Some will see pain as a necessary growth mechanism to further success. While it is true that pain can lead to growth and strength, simply prescribing people to the fact that they must feel pain is extremely fallacious.
One can go about by telling people about their past experiences in order to teach other people what they learned, but they cannot enforce an ideology that says it must be a certain way. A person can take another person's experience and use it to make their similar path more efficient or smarter.
The truth of the matter is is that there will always be inherent and unseen advantages and disadvantages in each persons personal path. Some may start out at 2 and others will start out at zero. Some may have a concept in their head that a certain amount of time or work will get a certain and justified result. Some people will use their suffering to stroke their ego and make them feel more entitled to things than others. Understanding real world situations will help you and others recognize the amazing diversity and uncertainty that exists in the universe.
There you are.
Looking at a sink full of dirty dishes.
When did it come to that point ?
What does the lack of cleanliness reveal about our internal landscape?
We have been conditioned to comfort and convenience. We think that putting off things will be fine in the long run. Some of us just never learned to be more aware of how we treat our kitchen, our bedrooms and all the things we live with on a day to day basis. What does the lack of maintenance say about what is going on in our heads?
The striving for convenience has lead to a build up of inconvenient things. For example, when you choose to put off the dishes, you are allowing yourself to more arduous work in the future. Food hardens and is harder to scrub off the more you put it off. Wouldn't the simple act of cleaning as you go or right after you eat be more efficient and beneficial towards your mental health?
It is easy to slip into habits and give ourself comforting excuses that let us off the hook. Maybe you had a bad day or maybe you are too full or exhausted to even think about exercising such a laborious task. When we base all necessary and cleanly things that need to be done off of our moods then it allows us to become stagnant and irresponsible.
A simple act of doing the dishes can be meditative. Bear with me. When you are aware of the fact that doing the dishes in an efficient manner can help you in the long run, you grow. Each time you practice doing the dishes as soon as you eat or as you cook, you are allowing yourself to be more present and improve your health. The outer world is indeed a reflection of your inner space.
You can take this metaphor of the dirty dishes and apply it to many things in your life. Procrastination is a particularly nasty devil that makes you think that putting off important things are simply "ok". It tricks you and creates anxiety for you when things build up or are pressed for time. You could have had time to do other leisurely things, but the daunting task of dishes stands in your way. You could want to cook, but are turned off since it will take more work to clean up the dishes now than before it got to mess it is now.
When you see dish washing as an opportunity to be more present, you eliminate the idea that is is suppose to be a laborious and daunting task. You can create a healthy atmosphere both mentally and physically for your future and current self when you choose to keep things clean and tidy.
It is kinda like that cleanliness is next to godliness phrase. We have all heard that haven't we?
Do the dance of the dishes,
And clean off your plate,
You'll indeed see the logic of your fate,
When you let things go neglected,
Your conscience may reject it,
And put it off to the side,
When you know what's good for you,
The right things will ring true,
And you'll take on the task with courage,
With time you'll know why,
Things can go awry,
By simply choosing to neglect them,
With such piece of mind,
You'll breathe just fine,
Knowing you're taken care of.
And without strife,
You'll wash the fork and knife,
Knowing that the simplest act of dishwashing,
Could quite possible save your life!
Friday, October 9, 2015
I do declare that Them Vs. Us is unjust,
We sometimes do not know who can trust,
We get stuck in our ways and get fixed on a gaze,
We surround ourselves with a collective haze,
They'll side with their views and have various news,
On things that they want you to know,
They'll convince you they're right and even use a tactic to fright,
To get you to submit to their ideas.
They'll think they know best and not consider the rest,
That maybe there is more to their own agenda,
They will make up a name to fit their regime and make a point to tell you they're better,
Their sense of humanity is stunted,
Their ideology will trump it,
And eliminate facts and reason.
Appeal to your emotion,
Cater to your inner desires,
They will promise you freedom and make you think that you need them,
Even if they are making up along the way,
Values out the window,
It's for the betterment of the whole,
The others you see,
Don't know what they are doing,
Our right way is the only way,
Convince them that them are not us,
And their existence is unjust,
That their ideas are the enemies,
Don't bother to understand,
Just stick to the plan,
And focus on divide and conquer,
Sure they are human,
But they're misunderstood,
If only they knew what you knew,
If only they believed what you believed,
If only they know what this grass felt like on the toes,
Compare and contrast,
It simply won't last,
You'll swim far away from your empathy,
After a while when you wake up,
You'll see the fallacies of your beliefs.
Belief is a prison,
You're perspective is a poison,
You're being violent to your fellow brother,
You seemed to have forgotten,
That we have all been gotten,
By ideas that divide us to disaster,
Them vs. Us is simply unjust,
Since them is us and us is them,
Resisting your brother is killing a friend,
That exists in our core,
We should know more,
That all this belief are simply misunderstandings,
Notice the collective and see their directive, but never fall into the trap.
For the time you decide to divide and take sides,
Are there any smart people?
This may seem like a trivial and dumb question at the surface, but if you really look deeply you can see some possible answers to this question.
We like to think that smart people are the ones have a certain quantified intelligence and are able to critically think through problems and situations. Sometimes we may think that a person with a good memory and the ability to spout out statistics and facts are of somewhat intelligent significance. We also perceive people with accreditation and merit in certain fields to have some sort of authority in intelligent matters. In what way do we just label people as smart by what they specifically have to say versus what they actually do?
There tends to be a division between different types of intelligence as well. We sometimes will see a person who fits more into a street smart than a book smart. Maybe someone is intelligent in one or two things and fails to lack any intelligence or common sense for real life issues.
We tend to call people smart in order to compliment them or simply agree that have something relevant to say. When we call someone smart, are we stroking their ego? Are we creating a false division of intelligence between people that aren't called smart?
In reality, all that matters at hand is if the information is factual, reasonable, logical and concrete. The person delivering such information is only the messenger for what they actively say. When you strip away the label of "smart", you only need to focus on what is said and not who actually says it. You can then logically conclude that the information said is reflective of how deep the self knowledge and the critical thinking is of the person.
When you think a person is smart, you are creating an image that puts them into a solid state. Is the scientist that knows a lot about frogs still smart if he chooses to text and drive on a daily basis? The smartness should only be determined and criticized by the actions itself. A person who makes a stupid decision can make a decision under a multitude of factors such as stress, anger, duress or emotional compromise. It is the lack of self knowledge and the lack of awareness that leads to poor and irrational choices.
This can also be applied to the word stupid. This is a more aggressive label. When someone calls another person stupid, they are choosing to limit their viewpoint to a label and not take into consideration of why they might think they are stupid. It is a complete lack of understanding and an irrational and ego identifier that leads to a disconnect from empathy and compassion. Stupid holds no value. It actual separates you from the humanity of fellow man. It is choosing to be lazy and irresponsible because of an unwillingness to look inward and see the situation for what it actually is.
You could both use smart and stupid as emotional manipulators used to separate people into illusory classifications. A reasonable man would have no need to call a man smart or stupid because he would only focus on the reasonability and validity of the information brought to him. He would not see an accredited and astute man as smart because he would only see what lies within himself.
When you recognize the smart/ stupid paradigm, you can truly see the lack of education and self knowledge that is abundant in the real world today. One must not feel pity for the uninformed because the uninformed know not what they do. A unreasonable person will not be reasonable when he or she is unconscious of his own neglect and ignorance. To shame a person by calling his argument or his character stupid is to sink into the land of unconsciousness.
Does a person's personal experience make him smart?
Personal experiences are lessons for the people that are consciously aware. They can learn from mistakes and progresses and educate people of their findings. When you quantify personal experiences, it does not make a person more smarter than another. A person may become more "wise", but that only applies for the benefit of himself and how he interacts with the outside world.
The acquiring of knowledge does not make anyone smart either. Knowledge comes from all different places and the most important is self knowledge. Knowledge comes and goes and fills up minds. If a man has "more" knowledge in a certain subject that another man, he is only advantaged because he carries more information. More information does not make a person smarter because when it is delivered it is for the benefit of everyone. When the words leave the mouth, the messenger detaches from it. It is from conscious intention and other factors outside of their control they gave them an "upper hand" in contribution.
In conclusion, people will not be entirely equal on a scientific intelligence spectrum such as the IQ test. People will have different natural advantages based on genetic factors and childhood experiences. When labels come into the picture, it distorts the uniqueness that lies within humaniy. Freeing the smart label will let you see truth and understand the mechanics of human consciousness. Compassion will arise and the action of love will come into place to see the illusions of false indentifications that hold no value.
Thursday, October 8, 2015
Are you accountable?
Let me be more specific.
Do you hold yourself accountable?
Do you stick to the plan based on your own will or do you hold yourself accountable by the presence of other people?
These are some very important questions to answer. The modern day human tends to get lost in a sea of compulsive thought and distraction. Their desires are transitory and pass through their consciousness like water through a pipe.
" I should really start working out more."
" I should really start trying to lose weight."
" I need to start eating better!"
These are all pretty common statements that some or most of us have stated. The internal drive to better ourselves is present, but buried underneath piles of compulsory thoughts, to do lists and learned habits that haven't been willed to change. Stagnation and procrastination become a normal thing where the idea of change seems as far off as trying to ride a bike from the east to west coast. When we think of the amount of work we have to put into a goal or an intention, it can be overwhelming because we imagine everything all at once and condense it into a visualized package. Since the brain can only visualize a condensed version of the idea and cannot predict the future accurately, anxiety creeps into consciousness. Anxiety is the product of not being present and living in the present moment. Simply thinking and worrying are useless when aiming to start a new goal.
Let's say you have a new idea to start a daily blog. I for example have learned that writing has allowed me to discover new things just by the act of writing itself. I will start with a title or a general idea and start from there. Keep in mind that is the only structural construct I abide by to start writing an article. The flow of the writing tends to take care of itself when I'm just concentrating on writing around the subject at hand. How do I know when I'm finished? I feel it. I feel when I have said enough and that anything else would be just filler or redundant, I trust myself in finishing. It's quite interesting to see the product at the end and the coherency it presents. I do go back and edit, but overall the ideas are pretty concretely laid out.
Writing has become an activity to become more present. I really let the fingers glide and let the thoughts flow. I tend to think of myself as conduit for the emergence of information and ideas into my consciousness. It is therapeutic and it is a necessary teacher. It exercises my brain and my general well being. The brain and the act of writing are certainly a muscle that needs to be used.
What makes me write the way I write? If I had a concrete answer, the act of writing to discover would be unfavorable and unnecessary.
The topics I write about have made me learn the importance of accountability. Some of the pseudo advice and ponderings on philosophical ideas I write about have allowed me to see innate hypocrisy in my own human action. If I wrote about patience and I become irritable sometime in the day, I can look back to what I wrote. It would be extremely hypocritical of me if I were to write about the importance of awareness and be angry all the time afterwards. The writings have allowed me to manifest my own internal motives and ideas and implement them into my own life.
So, what am I getting at here?
I have started to hold myself accountable by my writings and teachings. I may be preaching to my own choir, but I am getting the ideas out of my head in order to understand and implement them. I can use the writings as markers for making sure I'm on track with what I want and what I need.
It's actually quite awesome and interesting as well that while I am writing this article, I am holding myself accountable by writing about the importance of writing for accountability.
There are many other ways to hold yourself accountable for habits or goals you are trying to shoot for.
Call up a friend and tell them what you are trying to do. Ask them for any suggestions or ideas on how to improve the efficiency of your goals. Clearly state your intentions and possibly give some deadles if necessary. Ask your friend if he or she would be willing to help with accountability. This can help motivate you since it won't be only you who is aware of your intentions. It's easy to let things slide on a diet or a goal when we are only living in our own heads. When you start to fall off track, you can think of what your friend would think of the situation. The friend becomes an external accountability factor in the real world. Think of the accountability as a management system for ensuring the completing or perpetuation of your goals.
Think of accountability as the act of giving birth to your ideas in the real world. You had this idea baby and now you have take care of it or give it up for adoption. Accountability allows for the nuturing of ideas to grow and take form. It allows for passion to stay in check and on track. It allows for the betterment of yourself and others.
Tuesday, October 6, 2015
Let's talk about narcissism.
The social media revolution has created a fallacious attachment to who we think we are. We develop profiles that are suppose to represent us. We maintain them. We take selfies and post them in the effort of presenting ourselves to the world. It reaffirms the sense of self. It is illusory in nature, but can direct one to the understanding of why we do things on an evolutionary level.
But enough about that.
Let's talk about me! I mean I think I'm a pretty cool guy. I have some nice hair, blue eyes and find myself to be rather charming at times. I love to tell of my stories from my past and post selfies to expose my fabulousness.
I mean all of you are great, but what does it have to do with me? Why haven't you complemented me on my new shirt? I mean come on! Sure I got it on SALE at SEARS, but this nice trim and collar are pretty much to die for.
When was the last time you bought me lunch? I think I've done my fair share of buying some of you peeps lunch before. Maybe it's time to return the favor and start getting me stuff every once in awhile.
Speaking of, I'm kind hungry. I wouldn't mind a Reuben right now and just eat in front of a mirror. I simply love the way I chew. It takes some effort and practice to look attractive when you chew. Some people are not very mindful of their chewing. Some people think that they shouldn't look very attractive when they eat. I think otherwise.
I'm also pretty good at push-ups. I do push-ups every day and do pull ups. I love to hit the gym and look at myself in the mirror. I love how my muscles look after a workout. I've take quite a few gym selfies in my day and I can assure you that I have gotten quite a bit of comments and likes.
I was at the gym the other day doing some squats, when a young attractive girl came by and smiled. I said," Nice squats huh?" She got embarrassed and rushed off. Yup, lady killer over here. I mean the least she could have done was told me that she liked my glutes.
I pretty much make the most banging playlists for the pool and the boat. I like to think I have a heightened music taste. I can really keep the party going with my presence and the music. I often yell out WOO! when I'm out on the lake with my boys and some chicks. I freaking love to show off my pecs and biceps when I'm out on the lake too. I love to show off what god has given me and what I have worked so hard for. Sucks being such a cool guy sometimes.
I can play some mean guitar solos too. I love to jam out in my living room without a shirt on and call up my friends to listen to my mean shreds. I put them on speakerphone and let the jammage flow out of me. It feels so good to have people listen to me play. It feels so good to offer such a rad thing to the world. One of these days I would love to play a guitar solo on a mountain top and skype in a bunch of my friends and maybe set a record so that everyone will know that this guy did a solo on top of a mountain. Guinness baby!
One of these days I'm going to throw a party celebrating me! I mean I already have a birthday "month", but I should be celebrating myself more with others. I'll have a moon bounce, grilling, swimming, girls, a baller playlist, a beer bong, some chips with my rad homemade salsa, some sumo wrestlers just chilling, a dude with a flamethrower, water balloons, nerf guns, bicycle jousting, drones, a screen printing station where people can make their own shirts, a dance troupe, paintings of me posted around the party, some of my favorite motivational quotes, dogs, an animal trainer with an ocelot, a cheerleading team, a couple basketball players playing horse, a tv with the movie Friday running on repeat, some cupcakes, pie, queso, a pull up competition, a finger painting station, a favs painting station, some hippie chicks doing hula hooping, a station to make your own crepes, a personal butler, a stage where I can tell my favorite jokes, a kissing booth, a jello wrestling kiddie pool, some well groomed poodles, a giant life size chess game, a tutorial on how to cook different types of eggs, some RC cars, a Pepsi challenge table, a Cricket wireless promotional booth, a henna booth, a lemonade stand where local kids can sell lemonade, a tea ceremony, an introductory class on how to make your bed, a couple of army dudes to recruit some bros, a sign up sheet to go on a swamp ride, a raffle for a season pass to The Houston Rockets games, a candle making seminar, a vegan cookie workshop and finally a prayer circle praying for the best things to happen in my life.
I don't know about you, but I love myself.
It's great being me!!!!
Thursday, October 1, 2015
How are you feeling ?
Why are you feeling alright? What is getting you down? Is it an external factor in your world that is taking up space in your inner world? Is it the irritation of boredom or not simply getting what you want? Are you anxious about the future and resentful about the past?
I think a more direct and important question to ask is: "What are you resisting?" What is it in your current life situation that is keeping you from achieving something or simply being at peace in your life? Are you trying to discipline your mind into a routine of positive thought? Are you motivating yourself by accepting what is instead of trying to blindly follow your ambitions?
Surrendering to the present moment is something that is getting lost in the modern world. We pride ourselves in achieving external accolodes and goals in the "real world" instead of deeply diving into ourselves. We let money rule our lives with an iron fist and bury out faces in electronics to ease the pain around us.
A person's tendency to control every aspect of their life grows out of the discontentment and uncertainty of the future and personal desires. The inherent striving to become something more than what you are is a resistance to what is. The compulsive train of thought that guides us each day in trying to achieve what we want to achieve is actually a roadblock of sorts. Blindly making lists without setting intentions will further drive you into a path of discontentment.
" I am content with discontent."
When you are present in the moment, you can immediately see the discontent in front of you and see its inherent fraud. Once you recognize it without identifying or being sucked into it discontent, you be content with what it actually is. It allows to dive deep into your consciousness and ask yourself some important questions.
"What is the meaning of this discontent?"
"Why do I choose to allow discontent to run my life or validate who I am as a person?"
Since discontent is the absence of content, we can see that it born out of lack of self knowledge and identification with the ego. Discontentment is the resistance to the present moment and the supplier of perpetual sorrow.
Emotions are good guides in determining how you should handle a situation in your life. The key is to not let these emotions take over your consciousness and create more suffering and resistance. Emotions can be indicators of your intuition communicating with your consciousness. When you are attentive to emotions and let them pass, you are feeing up your resistance to your inner and outer situations.
A simple trick is this.
When a compulsive thought, a bad past feeling or uncomfortable feeling arises in your consciousness, do not try to "fix" it. Try closing your eyes and taking a deep breath while truly feeling what is impacting you. After you take a deep breath, label the emotions felt and say them in your head or out loud. Sometimes it is best to say things out loud(depending on certain social circumstances) in order to hold your self accountable and just hold in the restraint of your head space. It is kind of like mindfully letting of steam without resistancing a thought or emotion with aggression or neglect.
When you recenter and align yourself with the present moment, you are letting go of the grabby fists that have put a stranglehold on your joy and contentment. You are letting go of the social and mental conditioning that has molded your brain into the form it is now. It is saying, " I know that my perception and my consciousness are being affected by resistance and when I surrender and breathe, I can truly be."
Letting go of the resistance to the present moment and things that you simply cannot change takes practice. It takes the attentiveness and self knowledge to really get yourself in the habit of being more present. There is no end goal, but there will be a point of "flow" where you can effortlessly open yourself to opportunities you would have never seen before in your monkey mind. You can be passively aware of the dance of the life and the amazing certainty of uncertainty in this world. The lack of resistance can open the doors to spontaneity, opportunity and most importantly creativity.
All that you need is with you right now. As you read this, you are expanding your self knowledge and slowly letting go of the stranglehold in your mind. You can make yourself more vulnerable and relax with whatever will happen in the future. You can relax with the fact that every decision you have ever made has made who you are today whether "good" or "bad". You can acknowledge to yourself that universe can surprise you and give you everything you want and need when you surrender. Letting go of control makes for a more interesting, wholehearted and fulfilling life. When you hop off the lustful desire train, you can allow for love to flow through. You allow love to enter you life and inner space when resistance does not fuel your existence.